Archive for February, 2000

My mother, Pauline Bograd, died at 5:15 a.m. yesterday.  She was 91 years
old.  She died peacefully after having been in the hospital since
Thanksgiving weekend for congestive heart failure and kidney failure.  The
time in the hospital was a very special time, even though she was struggling
for food and air – she was alert and communicative nearly all of the time,
and the whole family were able to let her how much we love her. Many of the
staff who worked with her became very attached to her.

She kept herself alive for the wedding of my cousin Maxine’s daughter, the
millenium (we had a New Year’s eve party at the hospital), my nephew Louis’s
engagement, and the birth of my brother’s new grandchild, Benjamin (son of
Mark and Jean).  She saw videos of the new baby the night before she died.

My mother was everyone’s role model.  We learned from her about taking
leadership in the community, being a good friend, treating every person she
meets as special, staying cheerful and keeping high spirits through all of life’s
challenges, and giving and receiving love.

The funeral will be at 10 a.m. this Sunday at Robert Schoem’s Menorah Chapel,
150 Route 4E in Paramus, New Jersey (201-843-9090).  From the George
Washington bridge, you take Route 4 about 5 miles.  Stay on Route 4 West as
you pass Route 17 overpass, go to second overpass after Route 17 (Paramus
Road).  Make a U-turn at Paramus Road and get back onto Route 4 East.  The
Funeral Chapel is approximately 1000 feet on your right (it is near

For those of you not familiar with Jewish mourning practices:  It is not
customary to send flowers to a Jewish funeral.  A contribution to charity
or a note (or email) are always welcome.  The family welcomes visitors
at the funeral or at the “shiva” home for the week following the funeral.

We will then be receiving visitors (“sitting shiva”) at the home of
my brother and sister-in-law in Pompton Lakes, New Jersey until Thursday (if
you want to come, send an email asking for details).  On Saturday night, Feb.
12 we will have a memorial gathering from 6 to 10 p.m. at our home in New
York, at 165 West End Ave., Apt. 3R (near 67th Street).

My mother was a passionate crusader for Planned Parenthood for more
than 50 years.  Donations in her memory may be made to Planned
Parenthood of Metropolitan NJ, 151 Washington St., Newark, NJ 07102.

Harriet Bograd


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